Brace yourself because I am going to write about that one day out of the year where the entire nation overly proclaims their fairy tale love for another or they once again remind everyone just how single they are.
Even though we all know those people who do this year-round, it’s especially worse on Valentine’s Day. No matter what your relationship status is, this day always seems to come with added pressure. Despite the ridiculousness of the Hallmark and Archies – Valentine’s Day serves as a painful reminder for those of us who will not be receiving candy, cards or flowers on the fourteenth. That reminder not so silently seems to shout, “You, my friend are very single.
You are probably dreading being alone, again. More so if you have no luck in the dating department despite having met up with more people than you can count in your lifetime. Or perhaps this could be the first time you have faced this day alone – post break up. Because I absolutely hated the flowers, chocolates and the lovey-dovey display around every corner I turned and then I realised it doesn’t have to be that way.
Who says you need to have a significant other to be happy on Valentine’s Day?
Perhaps now is a good time for you to focus on who you are, what you are looking for and most importantly, loving yourself. Yes I know, that probably sounds a rubbish suggestion when what you really want is a hot date, or better still, someone to love you. Trust me I have been through this and most of you will agree too when I say learning to really love yourself is a step towards being able to unconditionally love someone else.
The more you can enjoy your own company, look in the mirror and like what you see, and feel really good about yourself, the better place you will be in to attract someone who is also comfortable in his or her own skin. When we don’t really love ourselves, not only do we tend to attract needy people, which is not a good basis for a long-standing relationship, by we also tend to come into relationships with needs that we want the other person to meet.
It is important to remind yourself that being single is okay and actually a very good thing. Up until this point I have shuffled from one relationship or quasi-relationship to the next and never forced myself to be truly alone. There is no better time than now to spoil yourself and know yourself better. There are a million Valentine’s Days in the future. Maybe prince or princess charming isn’t going to be hanging out with cupid, but who really cares? It is easy to pack in all of the clichés about heartbreak, time and healing. “It will get better.” Sure, maybe.
Ladies, Beyoncé wrote that “Single Ladies” for you 🙂