I was listening to Zinda Hoon Yaar kaafi hai and then I was thinking about my story and the first thing that came to my mind was a quote ‘’You’re not growing up if you’re not losing friends’’ – Something I have always heard people say and to think about it now, they weren’t wrong at all.
This statement really disturbs me because I am one of those suckers who keep looking for friends lost in childhood, let alone those I lose when I grew up. Thanks to Facebook, Twitter I have found several of them but sadly I am not really close to them today as they once did. You can never hope to recreate the magic of a past that you have outgrown.
I have lost touch with most of my high school friends even though we have a proper FB group where people keep posting stuff for meetups and gatherings, none of them are relevant to me because most of them are in North America.
I think we outgrow people and situations. Yes, I would have loved to be in touch with all of them and be friends like how we were as kids because I still value our friendship but people grow and move away from each other too- that’s just LIFE. However, do not want to give up on people yet or break friendships in order to move on with our lives because that would be most selfish. But yes, it is very much possible that the way we relate to a particular person may change over the years and probably you will give less of yourself to a friend and engage yourself in a different activity and have a different circle as you grow up because equations are bound to change, no doubt on that.
It is heart wrenching to see best friends turn into worst enemies and funny when worst enemies turn into best friends. Watching a friendship go bad is worse than an ugly break up. They were there for you, they saw you at your ugliest and stood by you through the pain. It obviously makes sense to move on rather than hanging on to your old friends if it’s not relevant anymore but you know what, ‘What’s yours will never be lost’, you don’t necessarily have break off all ties, just maintain a healthy relationship!
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